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Keep on keeping on

January 23, 2011

If I thought only about keeping New Year’s Resolutions, I would have already failed to keep my New Year’s resolution of blogging once per week. I wrote my first post on 1/1 and 23 days later I am writing my 2nd. If I thought only in terms of resolutions, I would have said to myself “Oh well, I’ll try again next year.”, and I would have stopped.

Instead, what I have done was to look at my original goal and say that maybe it needs to be revised. Often you have other goals competing for your attention or stressors that you did not anticipate when you set your goal. Often other people that you have responsibility for like children, aging parents, or demanding bosses will redirect your life and goals more than you planned.

The ability to persist and adapt in the face of challenges to your goals is very essential. Try to set aside time daily, or at least weekly, when you can evaluate what you are doing well, and what you may need to do to change. I remember the words from one of the books by Robert Allen that help me keep on track — “Plan your work, then work your plan”.

Set goals to inspire you

January 1, 2011

This is a perfect time to set goals

Happy New Year! The purpose of this blog is to provide helpful info and motivate you to achieve more in your life.  Although this info may  not be new to you, hopefully it is arranged in a way that helps you take more control of your life.  The main goal is to motivate and inspire you.

Most of us try to have New Year’s resolutions but as soon as we fail to keep our resolution, our attitude usually is “Oh well, maybe I’ll try again next year.” Instead I would suggest that you set up goals that help you set direction for your life.  In football there is a “goal line”,  and “goalposts” which serve as visual images to motivate your team to score.

Similarly, in our life you should strive to have goals which serve as “goalposts” to keep us moving in the right direction.  Goals can be set at anytime but usually the beginning of the year is a likely time to start.  Other times may be on your birthday,  the beginning of a new semester if you are in school, starting a new position in your career, or beginning a job search.

How do you set goals? There is no clear cut answer. Various terms, such as dreams, goals, objectives, tasks, or plans are often used to refer to this goal planning process.  Some writers may make various distinctions between all these different terms.  In general when starting this process you want to go from more vague or general ideas (dreams) to more specific items (objectives, tasks) that you can accomplish which might resemble a to-do list.

Others have proposed different ways of thinking about goals.  One idea I find useful is to ask yourself, “Where do I see myself one year from now?”.  The difference between where you want to be and where you are now can help establish your goal.

Some writers encourage you to focus on just one goal while others encourage you to set goals in various areas of your life.  I prefer the later method.  I usually set goals in areas of my professional development, health & fitness, spiritual/ personal development, and financial goals.  Do whatever seems to fit your needs.

Try to keep your goals positive rather than focus on the elimination of something negative in your life.  For example, rather than have a goal of not overeating, have a goal that you will eat more vegetables.  In most situations a positive goal will be clearer to follow than a goal where you are telling yourself not to do something.

One way that I have used is to start with a stack of index cards. Write 1 potential goal on each index card. Just start writing as many cards as you can.  Then begin to sort the cards and see if certain themes appear.  By the end of this process some goals hopefully will emerge.

Do not obsess on getting this process perfect. Otherwise you will never start. At some point you want to write your goals down.  Put them down on pieces of paper that you might have in your pocket, or on restaurant napkins. Get a special notebook. Type them into your computer. As Nike reminds us in their ads, “Just Do It.”

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